Laura OConnor Fahey - Minister, Best Selling Author, Radio Host, Motivational Speaker
About Forgiveness


Thursday, November 5, 2009

I Can't Forget.

I was recently talking with a woman who had been sexually abused as a teenager. She was still carrying around a lot of anger and resentment toward the criminal who had repeatedly assaulted her. She wondered if she would ever be able to forget what had happened. The truth is, we will never forget such events in our lives........but we can forgive. Forgiveness sets us free. "Remembering" gives us power, wisdom, and the ability to make a difference with what we have learned.

5:27 pm est 

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

7:49 pm edt 

How can I have compassion for someone who has hurt me so much?
First you must ask yourself if you have truly forgiven.  Because if you have, then your compassion will come naturally.  If you have not, you will experience a block.  When this happens, you must return to your inner wisdom, still your mind, quiet your doubts, and nourish your Spirit with the truth.  Forgiveness will set your free.
7:48 pm edt 

Saturday, September 6, 2008

How is forgiveness possible when you have been sexually abused?
This question is at the heart of true forgiveness.  If you have been sexually abused, you have much to forgive.  You will never forget, but you must forgive.  Lack of forgiveness will consume your life and drag you deeper into despair; ultimately poisoning your life and the lives of your children.  Forgiveness is a moment to moment process, we must continually remind ourselves that we are seeking to lead a forgiving lifestyle.  We are reminded of our past in a myriad of ways throughout our days and nights; when pain arises we must consciously choose to let it go.  The choice is clear, forgive or live in continual pain.  In the absence of forgiveness you allow the abuser to gain even more control over your life and emotions.  Forgiveness is the answer, it will set you free. 
9:38 am edt 

Sunday, April 6, 2008

How can I find it in myself to forgive someone I hate?
I would advise you to look for something "likeable" or honorable about this person and build on that.  We are more the same than we are different.  Often when we dislike someone a great deal, it is because they are reflecting something back to us that we do not like about ourselves.  If we can take some time to reflect on what it is that really bothers us about the other person, then we can also gain insight into ourselves.  I feel strongly that we must transform the energy of "hate."  There is enough hate in the world, and it is time to turn the tide of hatred and transform that emotion.  There are many things in life that we find disagreeable, but it is not necessary to become so intangled in them that we develop hatred.
1:40 pm edt 

Thursday, April 3, 2008

How can I forgive? It seems impossible to forgive and release the pain.

The only way to forgive is moment to moment, this is also true when we are releasing pain.  Pain will surface and often at the most unusual moments, events will trigger our memories and we will find ourselves experiencing painful situations from our past in the grocery store line!  We must be prepared that our minds will continue to bring up that which is unresolved.  The only way to forgive and release is moment by moment.  Breathe.  Release.  Forgive.  Remove the obstacles to your happiness through this profound practice.

8:52 am edt 

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Forgiving Past Traumas and Making Room for Miracles!

Hello, I invite your comments as we explore the deep-er need for forgiveness in our daily lives. The questions posed here have been e-mailed to me or presented in person; I have found them to be pertinent to the important topic of Forgiveness. If you have questions that you would like answered in this venue, please e-mail me at and I will be happy to post a response.  If you have been sexually, emotionally, or physically abused, forgiveness is of the utmost importance in order to manifest a happy future.  I look forward to hearing from you.  If you would like your question to remain private, please let me know, and I will answer you by personal e-mail. The power of forgiveness is transformative.  Laura Lester Fournier

Copyright 2008
Spiritually Speaking With Laura Lester Fournier

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